The Benefits of Children Being Still
Mrs O’ Neill and Mrs Harris
November 2025
As parents, we often hear about the importance of keeping our children active; encouraging running, climbing, exploring and playing. Whilst movement is essential for healthy growth, there is another aspect of childhood that is equally valuable… stillness.
In today’s world filled with screens, busy schedules and constant activity, children can significantly benefit from learning how to pause and simply ‘be’. Stillness shouldn’t imply doing nothing; rather, it allows their minds and bodies the chance to rest, reset and grow.
Why Stillness Matters
In Nursery at The Manor, staff understand the importance of incorporating periods of peace and quiet in the children’s daily schedules. There are a number of reasons why stillness matters; Stillness can…
…Helps Children Focus
A few moments of quiet can do wonders for a child’s concentration. Whether they are drawing, listening to music or simply sitting calmly, this designated quiet time can help reset their brains, allowing them to return to activities with greater focus. In our Nursery, children are often encouraged to take a moment to calm their minds by lying down on the floor to relax and look up to the sky!
…Calm Big Emotions
Taking a pause gives children the opportunity to recognise and manage their feelings. Stillness can transform frustration into calmness, or worry into comfort, helping them build resilience for life. In the Early Years at The Manor, staff focus on helping the children to recognise and develop their feelings by using the “Zones of Regulation”. The coloured zones offer a visual representation of how a child is feeling. If needed, tools such as mindfulness can be used to help children regulate their emotions and calm down.
…Spark Creativity
Quiet time often nurtures children’s imaginations. When they’re not rushing, they have the mental space to dream up stories, games and new ideas. Children are given lots of opportunities and time to draw and write freely, and participate in role-play activities to support their imagination and creativity.
…Encourage Reflection and Gratitude
During still moments, children can reflect on their day, think about what made them happy, or express gratitude. This practice builds a positive outlook on life. During our shared times together, we discuss the activities we have completed and the people we’ve met, what have they liked? What made you smile today?
…Support rest and Better Sleep
Children’s bodies are continually growing, and stillness is crucial for recharging. Gentle activities like reading, listening to calming music, or practising deep breathing before bed prepare them for a better night’s sleep. In Pre-Nursery and Nursery, we have a designated ‘rest’ time each afternoon where we encourage children to listen to calming music or enjoy a story. During busy times of the day, we gather the children to help them regulate their emotions, either through yoga or mindfulness sessions.
Simple Ways to Encourage Stillness at Home
Quiet Time Baskets: Fill a box with colouring books, puzzles, or storybooks for calm play.
Nature Pauses: During walks, take a moment to listen to the birds or watch the clouds.
Bedtime Breathing: Teach your child to breathe slowly, counting in for three and out for three, before sleep.
Story Snuggles: Share a calming story together, focusing on soft voices and illustrations.
Music Moments: Play gentle music and spend time relaxing together, just listening.
Final Thoughts
Stillness doesn’t mean keeping children ‘quiet’ all the time; it’s about finding balance. Just as running and playing are essential, so are the pauses in between. By incorporating small moments of stillness into your child’s everyday routines, you are helping them develop focus, calmness, and creativity; skills that will serve them well throughout their lives.
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